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The not so good touches of Dr. Dix Poppas

June 20, 2010
By Secular Parent
The not so good touches of Dr. Dix Poppas

I recently read a series of articles discussing Dr. Dix Poppas(*), a Pediatric Urologist who specializes in, among other things, (pediatric) genital reconstruction.   I should note before I begin that Dr. Poppas is a very respected pediatric urologist who has helped many young children in his field of work.

I have an issue with one of Dr. Poppas “side” specialties, genital reconstruction.  His “clitorectomy” procedures on infant girls has come under serious scrutiny of late, and has brought the phrase genital mutilation to the halls of America’s hospitals, specifically the halls of Weill Cornell Medical College.
Poppa’s job is to engaged in the clitoridectomies of infant girls with the consent of their parents because these little girls have overly large clitorises.
But Dr. Poppas would say that Bridgette LaVictoire’s definition above in her article, “…Genital Mutilation of Girls” is slightly off kilter.  He would say that portions of the clitoral shaft of infant and young girls are being reduced to give them a more normal looking vagina, with minimal damage to clitoral nerves. He would further explain his followup procedure,
“which involves Poppas stimulating the girls’ clitorises with vibrators while the girls, aged six and older are conscious.  He also touches her on her inner thigh, her labia minora, and the introitus of her vagina, asking her to report, on a scale of 0 (no sensation) to 5 (maximum), how strongly she feels the touch.”
These things, he would remark, should not paint him as a perverted doctor, but a concerned physician trying to make sure the child has sensitivity in that area for future pleasure.**
Medically necessary or cosmetic?
Mainly, I have issues with the procedure itself: a cutting of the clitoris of infant and young girls to make the clitoral shaft smaller.  And more normal?  Clearly some definitions need explaining–to the minute detail.  We are talking about the psychological and sexual health of young girls.  Will this procedure have adverse effects? I’m not a doctor of any kind so I scanned the waves of the net looking for reasons why a child would NEED to have their clitoris thinned and/or trimmed.

There is no medical reason to have this surgery.

There is a condition called congenital adrenal hyperplasia (or CAH) that is commonly associated with the procedure.
“CAH is an inherited disorder present at birth that affects a baby’s adrenal glands.  A baby with CAH cannot make the proper amount of certain steroid hormones.”
As a result, girls with CAH can have over-sized or masculine genitals.  However, there is no definition of what qualifies, specifically, as over-sized or masculine. This is a subjective definition. And, even if this were something a child has, it is not medically necessary to alter the child’s genitals.  A history of American abuses at the hands of doctors in regards to children born as hermaphrodites has taught us well.  There are mounds of research that backs the universal findings: cutting ANYTHING below the belt should be done with INFORMED consent of the affected child, at a mature age, not during childhood when sexual identity, and sex patterns are still developing.
What do the professionals say?
Well, after a bit of confusion on the subject, the American Academy of Pediatrics has issued a policy statement on the subject of female genital mutilation:
The American Academy of Pediatrics:

Opposes all forms of female genital mutilation (FGM).
Recommends that its members actively seek to dissuade families from carrying out FGM.
Recommends that its members provide patients and their parents with compassionate education about the physical harms and psychological risks of FGM .
Recommends that its members decline to perform any medically unnecessary procedure that alters the genitalia of female infants, girls, and adolescents.

The question that we need to ask here is how will altering a little girls genitals, and then subjecting her to in-visit masturbation at each yearly physical exam, affect her thoughts and ideas on sex as she matures?  This question is important because early sexual experiences often are a driving force for sexual desires in adulthood.

Also, how will she develop sexually as she matures: children of all ages masturbate or feel pleasure from touching themselves.  Will the young girls subjected to this procedure learn to associate sex with pain–or decide that having sex or being touched “down there is a bad thing?

(many parents might smile here, but really sexual dysfunction has ruined many a marriage and quite a few relationships.  It matters, and the time to instill positive ideas about sex as a part of adult relationships begins quite young.

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In the end, I vote to leave infant girls the way they are: large clitoris and all!  Who’s to say that swelling from birth is not an issue here?  Or, who’s to say that having a large clitoris is, well, a negative thing?  And what is to prevent that clitoris of reducing in size naturally, as the girl grows into maturity?

Most importantly, as parents our job isn’t to decide what will be aesthetically and sexually pleasing to our children when they are adults–we can never know that.  Our job is to help young people develop strong self-esteem, and self worth.  These tools will allow kids to decide, at maturity, how their body should look and who should be allowed to touch them.

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* Dr. Poppas is Chief of the Institute for Pediatric Urology at the Komansky Center for Children’s Health of New York -Presbyterian Hospital Weill Cornell Medical Center (whew, that’s a mouthful!)

**Not to mention the other follow up procedure: stroking the child’s clitoris with a moistened q-tip–checking to see that she feels stimulated
Sources
What is CAH?

Female Genital Mutilation at Cornell University

Bad Vibrations:

American Academy of Pediatrics policy statement on female genital cutting

Genital Mutilation of young girls

From “Saved” comes something good: “I’d tell you if I were pregnant”

June 9, 2010
By Secular Parent
From “Saved” comes something good: “I’d tell you if I were pregnant”

So I debated long and hard before letting my girls watch Saved, a movie that many would deem inappropriate for 9 and 10 year-old girls.  But not this secular parent.  The movie offers a realistic view of the consequences and intentions of those who subscribe to the tenets of the Christian faith–and ONLY the Christian faith.

Saved tells the story of a group high schoolers at a Christian School.  One of them becomes pregnant in an attempt to “de-gayify” her boyfriend, who tells her one day that he thinks he’s gay.

The school and the kids are “Jesus-centered”, and EVERYTHING has a spiritual answer.  While positing itself as a comedy, the story carries the message that no one knows what Jesus would do or say in the end, and (of course) there has to be “something” that created all this wonderful beauty around us.  Here’s a clip (it’s a bit long):

I had the girls watch the movie as a side: I wanted to watch it, and they kind of hung around in the same room, peeping.  Of course they had questions: there was a sex scene (nothing on camera), was Jesus really white?, what was “de-gayification?”, and why was there a school ONLY for Christian kids?

I love when my children are confused–its a genuine opportunity for learning.  But what I didn’t expect is what my oldest daughter said to me at the end of the movie.
I’d tell you if I were pregnant
One of the major themes that come from the movie is who do you turn to when you need help?

In the movie, the pregnant girl was surrounded by people who were there to judge her, ready to send her away if they found out her desire to “help” ended in pregnancy.

There was no adult in her life that she could trust to love and care for her–instead, she only knew adults who would judge her, deem her bad for breaking God’s law.  And even though she seemed to have a perfect relationship with her mom, in reality she considered her mother to be in a fantasy world, unable to deal with the reality of a pregnant, unwed child.

That’s when my daughter said it: “I’d tell you if I were pregnant mom.”

I had to hold back a knee jerk reaction.  So much was imbedded in her statement.  First, it showed that she had at least one adult she could trust to love her no matter how bad of a choice she’d made.  Also, it showed that–possibly by watching the trials of this character–that a pregnancy isn’t something you can handle alone.

“That’s good,” I told her.  ”A person who’s pregnant needs a lot of help, and it’s sad that the girl in the movie felt all alone and confused, even though she had lots of grownups around who could help her.”

We all hope that our kiddos make good choices in their teen years, after all, that’s when so many people (present company included) make life-altering mistakes.

What is more important however is how young people deal with those mistakes.  After watching the movie, we reaffirmed our family values regarding sex: waiting to have sex as long as possible is the best for your body, and your mind.  Having sex while you are a teenager makes life complicated, and can have mental and physical consequences that you may not want.

—–> Notice no where in our values is waiting until marriage.  That’s not to say we haven’t mentioned that as an option.  But a non-married 24 year old has the right to have sex in a safe and healthy manner, and sex before marriage is not the evil that Christianity has deemed it to be.

Not all Christian girls are as blindly ignorant as those in the film.  However, if evangelical Christians had their way, every child would be as absorbed in Christ.  Young people would receive no information on contraceptives, the true nature of sexual orientation, or the various modes of thought to consider when making life decisions.  The world isn’t so one-sided though, and our children shouldn’t be either.

Live like the Bible says or go to hell?  There are so many more choices.

Israeli mistreatment of Palestinians must stop

June 4, 2010
By Secular Parent
Israeli mistreatment of Palestinians must stop

When Hamas took power of the Palestinian government  in 2007, a blockade of the country was immediately set up by both Israel and Egypt.  At the time it was thought a smart move.  But after 3 years, the blockade’s legacy is atrocious.  It has impoverished the people of Palestine, created legitimate anti-Israeli fuel for extremists, and turned Israel into the human-rights violators it originally sought to stop.

I maintain that here in the west, our lilly-footed approach to Israel has allowed sub-standard living conditions to persist in the country of Palestine for far too long.

In fact, a report by the United Nations in September of last year confirmed that Israel’s actions against the people of Gaza amounted to “war crimes.”  In several instances, attacks were carried out against civilians with no clear military purpose
“The Mission investigated 11 incidents in which the Israeli armed forces launched direct attacks against civilians with lethal outcome.  The facts in all bar one of the attacks indicate no justifiable military objective.”

“The facts gathered by the Mission indicate that all the attacks occurred
under circumstances in which the Israeli armed forces were in control of the area and had previously entered into contact with or had at least observed the persons they subsequently attacked, so that they must have been aware of their civilian status.”
Israel is a bully.

But not the mean-spirited bully that slaps you in the face while everybody’s looking, and then laughs. No.  Israel is a bully by proxy.  This type of bully uses the influence of someone or something else to prey upon others, constantly invoking its leeched power.

We enshrine the actions of Israel under the guise of “her right to defend herself”.   And while America sees Israel as a sister and a tie to the holy land itself, in reality our close ties with the middle-eastern democracy has given it the right to abuse the people of Palestine.

Also, Israel has consistently refused to allow inspectors to have access to ANYTHING in the “holy land.”  Specifically its nuclear stockpile.  Sound familiar?  Ahmadinejad is doing the same thing–but for some reason, Israel is exempt from the scrutiny that is bestowed upon the Iranian leader. (note: I consider Ahmadinejad to be a lunatic, which might ALSO explain why people don’t listen to him.  But, this does not dismiss Israel’s actions)

Palestinians have begged the international community for help: the Muslim world has responded.  As a result, Palestine has been demonized.

At the same time, Israel specifically targeted infrastructure in Gaza; infrastructure which had “no mililtary purpose.”  Factories were destroyed, schools, homes, hospitals, Gaza was blown to bits for no military reason.  In fact, the mission concluded that
“From the facts it ascertained, the Mission finds that there has been a violation of the grave breaches provisions of the Fourth Geneva Convention.”
But the western world chose to ignore these facts.   Faith plays a serious role here.  Not only does faith allow Israel to have the upper hand (of course the group nearest to Christ gets American loyalties), but it also allows Israel to shirk its moral responsibilities.

And now Israel is faced with serious backlash from the international community:
“International condemnation continued Friday, with protests in Syria, Greece, Mauritania, Bahrain and Malaysia, where some demonstrators burned Israeli flags and carried mock coffins. In Norway, the military canceled a seminar scheduled for later this month because an Israeli army officer was to have lectured.”
Turkey, who lost the nine people aboard the flotilla earlier this week, is particularly fuming at Israel.  The prime minister of Turkey also hinted at the religious undertone present in the conflict, and our bias against Islam: “You killed 19-year-old Furkan Dogan brutally. Which faith, which holy book can be an excuse for killing him?”  The prime minister went on to praise Hamas–a dangerous consequence of Israel’s treatment of those living in Gaza.

The blockade of Gaza must end.  And while president Bush was a strong supporter, the Obama administration understands that a blockade is “untenable” and must be replaced with a more humane option.

If we don’t keep the pressure on Israel to pay attention to the suffering of others (which, given the history of Jewish people SHOULD be at the forefront of their actions), the Jewish state risks alienating their supporters, fueling an oft-predicted “jihad”, and justifying the FALSE idea that God’s chosen people really are the evil ones that anti-Semites make them out to be.

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